All service stations which are signposted from the motorway network are required to provide free shower and washing facilities for HGV drivers. Other service stations are not required to but are encouraged to do so.
Service stations which were last refurbished prior to 2013 are not bound by this agreement, but the overwhelming majority do anyway. This website lists 'Showers' as a facility when you look up a service area. There is also the opportunity to leave public feedback on your experience.
The facilities are expected to be in clean condition and good working order. The quality varies, due to a mixture of customer misuse and bad management. To tackle this, different services have tried a number of measures, such as requiring you to ask staff for a key to the shower. They are not allowed to charge HGV drivers for the facility.
In general, the quality has improved over what it used to be in the 2000s, probably because professional drivers have become vocal complainants when expected to use dirty facilities. Complaints should be directed to the operator.